Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Fighting Kind

Well, nothing new over here.

I spent the last week thinking really hard about taking my supplements but never quite got my act together. I also sent a few desperate texts to Erin about my carb-centric diet and an urgent need to lose weight. And, of course, I’m still not pregnant.

But that sounds so negative! And I really don’t want to be negative – it’s against my nature. I don’t want to get caught in the fertility-focused trap of only seeing what isn’t in my life.

The truth is I have a pretty great life, not perfect, but great and full and fun with an abundance of lovely people. While I can’t make myself pregnant, I can make the most of my current situation.

I’ve long held the belief that real change comes from a place of kindness. And kindness is pretty much the opposite of “I must, I should, I have to.”

To an outsider the idea of struggling to take vitamins must seem so lame. Even the voice inside my head says, how hard can it be? But that is not the voice of a friend. When a friend is struggling, we don’t sit back and point out all their flaws and shortcomings and screw ups. We take them where they are and offer comfort and encouragement. We help them find a new path.

This quote has been circulating all over the Internet this week:
"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."
~Alice Walker

All of us here are fighting a battle and creating a new path. Let’s not forget to be kinder than necessary to ourselves.


  1. Hi - I really liked this post. I'm trying to get pregnant, having issues, and struggling to stay positive. In all honesty, I'm losing that struggle a lot. So this was really nice to read. Thanks for posting! :)

  2. My husband says his grandmother used to say, "It's better to be kind than to be right." I always liked that one.

  3. Remember: 80 percent is perfection. That means even 60 percent is doing pretty damn well.

    Keep your head up!

  4. This really touched me Christina and it was exactly what I needed to hear today. :)

  5. I tried to comment before, but I guess blogger ate it. Just remember "80 percent is perfection."

  6. Thank you, Sheila and Libby!

    Yes, blogger was having an off day last week and made a few comments disappear.